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For Males
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 Know your limits. Believe in your right to set limits. If there are any questions, STOP and talk about it.
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Know your limits. Be aware of social and peer pressures. It's okay not to "score".
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| Communicate your limits clearly. If your date starts to offend you, tell them quickly, firmly, and clearly. Polite approaches may be ignored or misunderstood. Say "NO" when you mean "NO".
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Believe what you are hearing. "NO" means "NO". Don't read other meanings into it. If you feel your date is hesitant or giving you "mixed messages" - STOP and talk.
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| Talk with each other. Communication is the key to a good relationship. Don't assume your date will know how you feel or will eventually "get the message."
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Talk with each other. Communication is the key to a good relationship. Don't assume your date will know how you feel or will eventually "get the message."
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| Be aware of your date's actions. Pay attention to behaviors that aren't respectful fo you. Even simple things - like put downs, making all of the decisions, or constantly teasing you - may mean your date doesn't respect your decisions or boundaries.
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Don't take "no" as a personal rejection or insult. Saying no is not rejecting you. Instead, your date is rejecting the action. It is saying that they do not want to go further at that time. Respect your date's boundaries and decisions.
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| Make a scene if you feel threatened. Trust your intuition. If you feel you are being pressured into unwanted sex, say so. State your feelings and get our of the situation if possible. Don't worry about a few minutes of embarrassment or awkwardness. They will pass.
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Don't make assumptions about another person's behavior. Do not assume a person wants to have sex because they are dressed in a certain way or agree to go your room. Just because your date wants or likes to kiss doesn't mean that your date wants to have sex. Listen to what your date is telling you-verbally and non-verbally.
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| Stick with friends you trust. Agree to look our for one another at parties or get togethers. Use the "buddy system" to check in with friends.
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Get involved if you believe someone is at risk. Don't be afraid to step in or speak out if you think someone is being pressured or forced to go further than they want.
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| Avoid using alcohol or other drugs. They interfere with your ability to think, act, or communicate clearly.
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Avoid using alcohol or other drugs. They interfere with your ability to think, act, or communicate clearly.
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