Obsessive Love Isn't Real Love

Obsession, jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship are not about love or caring in a relationship - they are about insecurity, control and manipulation. Below are some signs of obsessive love.

You believe you cannot live without your partner.	You make promises to yourself ("I won't call him." "I won't make her tell me everything she did since I last saw her.") but break them.
You have fewer good times together, and spend more time on apologies and promises thawt things will get better.	You feel that you can never get enough of your partner.
You feel bad about yourself.	You try more and more to control your partner.
You feel you have to know everything about your partner - who they have seen, talked to, or where they have been.	You threaten suicide or to hurt yourself to get attention from your partner.
You don't make decisions or plans - instead you wait to find out what your partner is going to do.	You depend on your partner for happiness and excitement.
You don't enjoy time away from your partner and think about when you will be together again.	You show up or look for your partner without letting them know.
Your friends call less or say you aren't fun to be around anymore.	You don't think your partner cares about you when they want to spend times alone or with other friends.